The 26th Date

[1] On-leave
I thought I took my leave on the wrong date, and was thinking to swap it back today when I realized that actually I did asked for Wednesday’s leave. Al-Hamdulillah, seems to be tepat2 je as on Tuesday which was my 2nd day/time visit to the gym I was collapsed. Heheh pengsan abis2an padahal peluh tak keluar sebanyak 1st day pun. Flat gile on the Wednesday’s morning tu. Perancangan awal nak gi Jab. Pendaftaran Negara earlier since some people questioned whether my IC is already the ‘MyKad’ or not yet.

I went out around 11.00 am (matahari dah tinggi dah), and reached there (Maju Junction) around 12.00 noon ++. Figured out that the number for MyKad was finished already, but I just went to the counter to double-check whether mine is considered MyKad already or not. So it turn out that mine is the first version (which is why it does not have all the TnG tag, MyKad tag etc etc tags.) and I have to pay RM20 if I want to change it. Consider that RM20, long-waiting for new IC and (of most reason) queue-up for soooo long, I guess it will be better to keep that 1st version of MyKad. Aha, to those who have not change yours, pls do so ASAP because kalau tunggu lagi lama nanti lagi ramai nak buat and lagi sesak. Pergilah awal-awal pagi (open from 7.30 am onwards) sbb kejap je dah selesai urusan, prev. experience pergi before 8.00 am and before 9.00am dah settle dah.

Utk pengetahuan (bagi yg belum tahu lagikan), jabatan pendaftaran yg dekat KL ni dah takde dah kat Campbell. Sekarang dah tukar ke Maju Junction (seberang jalan je, bersebelahan dgn Bgn MARA-sederet ngan Sogo-Pertama-KL University-Maju Junction), tingkat 6 ok (untuk naik gune liflaa).

So, dah lepas tu aku pun jenjalan laa kat dlm Maju Junction tu.. uuhuh so many Sales, Sales.. sana sini rabun sekejap mata sib baik dah baca doa dlm hati : )) (sebenarnyer dah habis belanja duit gaji:P). Ada satu kawasan macam Bazaar kat Tingkat 1 or 2 (tak ingat plak) baru bukak and selling mcm2 termasuklah hasil seni lukis yg harganya ribu2.. Aku pun dok nengok jugaklah all the lukisan tu, erm ada yg serabut alam terlalu abstract tapi harga riban2 laa.. Waah, tak paham..hasil seni ni, mungkin kurang sikit menghayati. I prefer something yg terus nampak dan tak serabutkan fikiran. Sekejap je jalan2 tu when a friend yg dah berjanji nak jumpa contact. We want to discuss about projek Alumni Sekolah. They put their hopes on me to come out with the proposal paper, and I was being pushed for several times for unable to produce the proposal paper. Isk, dah kerja ni ade limitation sket la. Including tkade pc kan, lagila masalah satu lagi. Nak naip time ofis hour ni, utk blog pun dah cukup susah. So when a friend offering me the hands to help, hehe dgn senang hatinya saya pun membenarkan…

Balik tu sempat singgah KLCC utk solat.. On my way back, I stopped at a bread/bakery shop when a little cute girl came in with me (tak tahuler mana mak die pi, tiba2 je muncul). And the cashiers were mistakenly thought that is my erm.. daughter! Err err ape maksudnyer ni?? (ehhe ingat kata Siti, kalau nak anak pun cariklah bapa dia dulu.. ahahahha)

[2] New Born Baby

Pagi2 pukul 6.15 saya dpt SMS. My twin we born on the same date) Zaridah dpt baby boy!! Hajat masa belajar dulu nak kawin sama2 (:P) tapi takde rezeki plak. Al-Hamdulillah. Congrates her and Fahmy for the new born baby. Sat lagi Shelley kata nak gi sama2, insya-Allah utk jenguk the new born baby and the new parents. hehe

[3] Sibuk berkerja dan menonton

Hari ni balik ofis, saya sibuk sgt bekerja. Tapi dlm masa yg sama sempat dload few videos on Tsunami. Sesape berminat leh dload kat (right click/save as):
Tsunami In Phuket (11MB, 2mins)
Tsunami In Patong Beach, Phuket (10MB, 2mins)
Tsunami In Sri Lanka (7.6MB, 1:40mins)

Kawan2 kat ofis dapat circulated email regarding the “26th Day”. Pada tarikh tersebut kalau mengikut sejarah banyak berlakunya natural disasters (bencana alam). Contohnya:

Year Month & Date Place of Earthquake
1883 August 26 Krakatoa
1932 December 26 China (70,000 nyawa)
1939 December 26 Wilayah Erzincan, Turki (41,000 nyawa)
1996 December 26 Ribut Greg, Keningau, Sabah
2001 January 26 Gujarat
2001 September 26 Chennai
2002 December 26 China
2003 January 26 Newzealand
2003 May 26 Japan / Taiwan
2003 September 26 Japan(Hokaido)
2003 October 26 China (Sunsu)
2003 December 26 Wilayah Bam, Iran (45K nyawa)
2004 December 26 South east Asia (35K and still counting)

Mungkin sebenarnyer salah satu sebab ada di antara kita umat Islam banyak melakukan maksiat dan melupakan Allah SWT waktu ni. Macam kebiasaan sambutan thn baru di Malaysia, kita dah boleh tgk sendiri kan. Al-Hamdulillah, semua konsert sambutan thn baru di Malaysia dibatalkan. Kalau ada yg mengikut saranan PM utk buat doa selamat, al-Hamdulillah sekali lagi. Bukankah itu yg sebaiknya?

Tergerak hati nak selak alQuran sekejap and terjumpa ayat2 ni. KIre ayat2 ni semuanya adalah ayat 2600 ke atas. Extracted dr Surah Al-Anbiyaa (Nabi-Nabi):

Tiap-tiap yang berjiwa pasti merasai mati. Allah akan menguji kita dengan keburukan dan kebaikan sebagai cubaan/dugaan yang sebenar2nya, dan hanya kepada Allah-lah kelak kita akan dikembalikan [Al-Anbiyaa’, 21:35].

Sebenarnya (azab) itu akan datang kepada mereka dengan sekonyong-konyongnya lalu membuat mereka menjadi panik, maka mereka tidak sanggup menolaknya dan tidak pula mereka diberi tangguh. [21:41]

Katakanlah: Siapakah yang dapat memelihata kamu di waktu malam dan siang hari selain Allah Yang Maha Pemurah? Sebenarnya mereka adalah orang-orang yang berpaling dari mengingati Tuhan mereka [21:42]

Moga kita berada dalam keredhaan Allah SWT, keampunanNya dan kasih sayangNya.
Wasalam.

Segala Kisah

[1]

Kak Aza and I were having some chit-chat last week at Surau Al-Hidayah, MMU Cyberjaya. She looks a little bit slimmer compared to the last time I saw her. I was trying to see if everyone is in a good condition after being shocked with previous week’s sad news. Found out that actually in that condition, everyone is trying to look tough although they are not. The best thing is to keep on support each other.

We might feel sad but at the same time we want to continue the life. Kak Aza told me I am not the only one to feel is it ‘wrong’ while our beloved friend was passed away and we seems to ignore her present by coming back to daily chores. She was rite, although we don’t seems to continuously project it after this Kak Iqin will always be inside our hearts and we will always miss her. Just like what Aida said.

After all, I believe that if she can says it out loud, she would want all of us to do what we are supposed to do it in the first place: share knowledge with each other and be together, as sisters and brothers in Islam. Wallahu’alam.

++Related link: Thanx to Abg Faizal.


[2]

It’s really shocked! Tsunami disaster has reached us. There is nothing impossible for Allah SWT, for His Words are truth. Laa Ilahaillallah.. If only He wants to create or destroy, no people can stop it. Nor the so-called advance system & technology neither the geographical will matters. [Refer Mudin’s posting] . Innalillahiwainnalillahirajiun (From Allah we came, to Him we returned), tak mampu nak kata apa melihat tangisan ramai manusia atas kematian ahli2 keluarga hinggakan tinggal diri sebatang kara. Moga Allah beri kekuatan ke atas diri mereka, dugaan utk mereka. Kadang2, salah tu adalah sebab org lain yg melakukannya. Tapi, kite yg melihat mungkin tak kisah atau tak ambil peduli hingga tempias tu jatuh juga ke kita. Allah lebih mengetahui segalanya.

Apa2 pun, walaupun ajal maut ketentuan Allah SWT dan takkan berhenti nafas selagi belums ampai waktunya, kita perlu mengambil langkah berjaga2 juga. Berhati2 dlm perjalanan keseluruhan, elakkan turun ke laut bila terasa gerakkan air pasang, atau lebih kuat. (duhh, baru hajat cuti nak pi mandi pangkor or pergi jalan2 kat penang).

Tsunami usually comes with alarm. Perhatikan sekeliling kalau mandi laut. (Tips taken from the office colleagues who were discussing this issue). Tsunami stands for ‘3-beradik’ in which the wave (ombak) will comes in 3 stages: 1st stage usually bersama kedatanagan ikan2 laut yg naik ke darat , 2nd stage ombak yg sedikit kuat and 3rd stage ombak yg tinggi. Lagipun, kemungkinan ada kesan berganda yg bermaksud Tsunami boleh berulang2 hingga beberapa bulan.

Lepas ni jgn hairan kalau rasa tiba2 negeri/pulau2 yg tidak terikat ngan tanah besar dunia rasanya semakin jauh atau semakin dekat nak sampai since Tsunami ni pun menyebabkan berlakunya perubahan pada kedudukan muka bumi Asia. [More to read]


[3]

Erm..lama tak menulis, tetibe panjang pula yer. Yesterday, I was successfully pergi ke Gym kat Menara Telekom for the first time after years and months of attempt. :D So many people told me to keep fit, keep fit.. so I am trying to see how long I could stands in this ‘program’ ;) Oh, thanx to Shelley for accompanied me there. Hehe else I don’t think so I will proceed with my earlier planning to go there alone.

After all the gym-equipment-testing-and-trying, we went to Azrin’s new Char Kway Teow stall at AU2 Keramat. This family’s secret recipe is specially brought to KL from Ipoh (Azrin’s father has a stall in Ipoh, so she opened another stall here with helps from her brother and husband). The taste is not bad at all, we got few pieces of big prawn and a number of kerang. Hehehe sape alergik udang takleh la [hints: Siti Zurina]. It’s good for supper as tak terlalu berat sgt. So those who happen to be around there, you might consider a drop to the shop. Opened from 7.00 pm to 12.00 am on weekdays and until 2.00 am on weekends. The map is here.

[4]
aaahh, I’m hungry!! Need to take my lunch. (Dun worry about that ‘FAT’, I will eliminates it this evening;) ho ho ho )

Teacher of teachers

I guess i just fall in love with this song as well.

Although before this it was posted in Siti's & Hany's blog, i just don't want to be missed out from the group. ;) Bukan tiru korang ek, tapi mmg terpikat betul2 ngan lagu tu. Cuma takleh dgr awal sbb have to dload Real Player dulu, i dun have one b4.

Teringat kata2 seorang sahabat tentang kemampuan al-Quran yg dapat menarik perhatian pelbagai jenis manusia (different characters have different interests) melalui cara Al-Quran dibacakan atau isi kandungan al-Quran itu sendiri. I feel that konsep lagu ni pun lebih kurang macam tu juga sbb bak kata Hany lagu ni rhythm die ada pelan, mendayu, laju, bersemangat.. macam tu la..

Nak dijadikan cerita kemudian, secara tak sengaja saya pun tetibe tertranslate /terjemah lagu tu dlm Bahasa Malaysia. Walaupun tau penggunaan bhs saya mostly lebih kepada direct translation.. :D Sape2 terer utk gunakan bhs yg cantik2 tu silalah betul2kan.. kan HANY? ;)

Ok, ini die versi saya! :))

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Al-Mua'allim
Kita pernah memiliki seorang Guru
Guru kepada sekian banyak guru
Yang telah merubah dunia menjadi lebih baik
Dan menjadikan kita makhluk yang lebih mulia
Ya Allah sesungguhnya kami malu
Kami telah pergi jauh dari Al-Mu'allim
Sungguh kami telah melalaikan diri sendiri
Apakah yang berhak kami katakan padanya nanti
Oh Mu'allim...


Chorus
Baginda adalah Muhammad salla Allahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
Muhammad, Pembawa rahmat sekelian manusia,
Guru untuk sekelian manusia
Abal Qasim [Salah satu nama Nabi]
Kekasihku wahai Muhammad
Pemberi shafaatku wahai Muhammad
Ciptaan Teragung Allah adalah Muhammad
Wahai Yang Terpilih, Penghulu segala Utusan
Wahai Yang Terpilih, Pemberi Shafaat kepada sekalian kehidupan/dunia

Baginda bersolat ketika insan lain sedang tidur
Ketika yang lain makan, baginda berlapar (berpuasa)
Ketika yang lain bergembira, baginga menangis
Hingga nafas terakhirnya
Hajat (Doa)nya semoga kita berada
Di kalangan yang dirahmati (berjaya)
Ya Mu'allim sejahtera ke atasmu,
Benarlah dikau Guru kami
Oh Mu'allim..

Chorus
Kekasihku wahai Muhammad
Pemberi shafaatku wahai Muhammad
Rasulku wahai Muhammad
Pembawa khabar kebaikkan wahai Muhammad
Pemberi amaran wahai Muhammad
Cinta hatiku wahai Muhammad
Cahaya mataku wahai Muhammad
Baginda telah mengajarkan kita tentang keadilan dan kebaikan
Dan memberi makan kepada yang miskin dan lapar
Membantu musafir dan anak yatim
Dan tidak berlaku kejam serta bakhil
Kata-katanya berlemah-lembut
Seperti ibu memujuk (mengusap) anaknya
Kasih dan sayang baginda
Jelas terpancar apabila baginda tersenyum


Chorus
Abal Qasim [Salah satu nama Nabi]
Kekasihku wahai Muhammad
Pemberi shafaatku wahai Muhammad
Ciptaan Teragung Allah adalah Muhammad
Wahai Yang Terpilih, Penghulu segala Utusan
Wahai Yang Terpilih, Pemberi Shafaat kepada sekalian kehidupan/dunia

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Lastly, a bonus for video clip penulis lirik/penyanyi asal lagu ni boleh dpt kat SINI. Thanx to SarahM (Sarah Mamat?:) ). Salam cuti hujung minggu utk semua. Wasalam.

Tahlil

Forwarded msg by a friend:
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Assalamualaikum.

Tahlil arwah untuk sahabat kita - arwah Nor'Ashiqin, bapa kepada
Jasaruddin & beberapa ahli keluarga sahabat di Surau Multimedia
University, Cyberjaya, Khamis 23 Disember, seusai solat Maghrib.
Jemput hadir.

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So, insya-Allah tommorow i'll be going there where most of my life stories begin. The Place i miss so much, esp. the surau. Pada kawan2 yg lain, mehlah dtg sekali yer. Sampai bertemu kembali. wasalam.

Blank

Today, still it seems like i don't know where to start again in blogging. Usually early in the morning i'll check up the 4 core-early-bloggers, those who started blogging more or less the same time as I do: Siti, Hany, Mudin & Allahyarham Kak Nuun. Now the list is missing one blogger.

Siti kate betul, Mudin pun betul. Bukan tak biasa berhadapan dengan kematian, cuma sebab org lain kan mungkin kurang sket rasanyer. Tapi bila org terdekat yg pergi, kita rasa macam satu kehilangan walaupun hakikatnya kita akan bertemu kembali. Macam org yg pergi ke oversea, lepas tu akan terus menetap di sana tak balik semula ke malaysia and kite tak tau macam mana nak contact balik (consider takde kemudahan internet/phone) dan kite plak tak berkemampuan utk pergi tgk ke sana. Rasa berpisah macam tu la.. Hari jumaat tu bertembung pula dengan seorg kwn di ofis lama, memberitahu seorg sahabatnyer yg sakit baru shj pergi menemui Ilahi. Sabtu pagi dikejutkan pula dengan pemergian bapa kepada Abg Jas. seolah2 ramai sungguh org yg dikenali pergi, mulalah terasa diri pun begitu juga. Allah. terkenang kurangnya amalan sekarang, kalau pergi ntah macam mana la yer.

Mengenangkan MATI, ade 2 perkara yg saya takuti. (1) Keadaan ketika mati, samada dlm keadaan baik, sengsara and then mati di tempat yg elok atau tidak, dlm keadaan niat yg baik atau sebaliknya. (2) Keadaan selepas mati, dimasukkan ke kubur dan bertemu Allah.

Rasanya tak mampu dah nak bercerita pasal Arwah sbbnya ramai juga dah bercerita- termasuk Siti; and saya tak mampu nak kawal emosi. :) Saya kire Arwah dah berjaya 'mengikat' hati2 sahabatnya utk rasa dekat dan sayang pada dia dengan doa dan caranya sendiri . Something yg kdg2 saya rasa tak mampu nak dikatakan kehebatannya itu. Doa saya semoga Allah kurniakan abg faizal kekuatan dan ketabahan utk teruskan kehidupan di dunia ini.

Apa2 pun setiap yg bernyawa pasti merasainya. Bak kate Mudin, "after all..death is the only way to heaven"..

Insya-ALlah, i will try to come out with new posting (yg dah tulis tapi tertangguh separuh jalan utk habiskan). Sehingga bertemu kembali.

Al-Fatihah

16.12.2004


Semalam itu

Semalam itu,
Kami kehilangan seorang sahabat, seorang kakak
Kami kehilangan seorang rakan sekerja, rakan seperjuangan

Semalam itu,
Sebuah keluarga kehilangan seorang anak perempuan
Seorang bapa kehilangan anaknya
Seorang ibu kehilangan anaknya
Seorang kakak kehilangan adiknya
Dan adik-adik kehilangan kakaknya

Semalam itu,
Seorang lelaki kehilangan teman baiknya
Kehilangan isterinya

Dan semalam itu juga
Seorang anak kehilangan ibunya!

Dia,
Hadir dengan usikannya, dengan cerianya
Sambil tersenyum menampakan lesung pipit
Memaut hati sesiapa jua
Namun sering kelihatan tegasnya, yg benar tetap benar
Ukhuwahnya kental Iktikadnya kukuh
Cintanya pada ilmu, sering dikongsi bersama
Sokongannya tak pernah lupa
Nasihatnya pengubat lara
Tidakkan ku lupa Quwwatul Intizor nya
Sungguh, dia wanita istimewa yg luar biasa tautan hatinya

Benarlah janji-Nya
"Setiap yang bernyawa, pasti merasai mati"

Dia telah pergi, tak kembali lagi ke dunia fana ini
Hilang di mata, Tak jumpa lagi di dunia
Namun
Dalam hati kami, dia tetap istimewa
Tulisannya akan kami tatapi kembali
Sebagai pengubat rindu kami
Dirinya tetap akan dikenang, tetap disayangi
Pasti akan kami rindui
Moga rohnya dicucuri rahmat Allah SWT
Dan ditempatkan di kalangan orang yg beriman
Amiin ya Rabbal 'Alamin.

Al-fatihah utk Allahyarham Nor'ashiqin Mohd Ali (16.12.2004). & salam takziah untuk Brother Faizal sekeluarga.

p/s: Gambar di tempat kemalangan [Click Here]

Morning Spirit

I was being sooo touched with this email forwarded by a friend of mine this morning. Considering myself as that Malay woman who most labelize as too argumentative, too loud, too fat (?:P) actually adeler terasa sikit2 masa baca the first part tu. Sometimes, bukan nak argue byk2 cuma mengamalkan apa yg belajar bahawa "jelas dan terang" itu adalah cahaya kehidupan.. supaya hati tak sangsi atau sekadar meraba dlm gelap..

Terasa macam harga diri tu meningkat tinggi bila baca article ni. Suddenly, terasa sgt2 dihargai dan proud of being a muslim malay woman. I should thanx a lot to this guy, whoever becomes his Malay Queen insya-ALlah i believe will be well-protected and treasured. :) So here you are to all the Malay women who feels insulated by anyone for being that "easternized & traditional & religious", cheer up!

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To all malay women out there...two thumbs up for u...u'll proud to know that u r appreciated that much by a "professional malay man" (read the response especially the red-coloured paragraph). Anyway this is a nice article for everyone. Remember to read each & every single word of this article.

Wish to share this "Forum" section of a local newspaper....proud to be Malaysian, prouder to be Muslim Malay... This malay professional guy deserves an award for coming to our defense.

Dear Editor:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Malay male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Malay male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Malay female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Malay women were slim to none.

As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Malay men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Malay women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Malay men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of, 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes, ...I could go on and on.

But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Malay men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in Bangsar.


Read On.............
This letter was written in response to an article (relevant to the above):

Response:
Dear Editor:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Malay man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in England with a Masters Of Science Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a Multinational Corporation and have recently purchased a house and a brand new non-national car So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Malay men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Malay men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Malay men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Malay girls in my neighborhood were raised traditionally. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of Malay males date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Malay men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Malay women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.

Because of this fear, many Malay men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Malay men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Malay men date white women. Non-Whites like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestn! ut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Non-White women.

And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Non-White women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed.

Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Non-White Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was Non-White women who were breastfeeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the Non-White woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.

Malay women were born with two strikes against them: being Non-White and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the Malay women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Malay Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.

Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Malay women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with Malay women. I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks.

If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the Non-White woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.
Signed,
Malay Professional

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Harus atau Terpaksa?

So the weekends has over. Hmm, sabtu ahad bile sibuk tak terasa pun bercutinya. Sabtu, aku sempat juga menjenguk seorang 'kakak' di Shah Alam bersama beberapa kwn dr DCBA yg dah lama tak jumpa. Tgk Anas (anak Kak Lin) dah besar walau baru 3 bulan tak jumpa yg dulu mesti penat bermain kalau jumpa AUntie sorang ni . Since tumpang Kak Sarah & Ismail ke rumah Kak Fari, dpt juga main2 dengan anak sedara DCBA yg pertama ni, Raudhatul Jannah yg dah berusia 2 thn lebih. Dulu jumpa masih baby lagi, sekarang dah pandai pun bercakap. Semalam kenduri Walimah Abg Jas & Kak As selamat dijalankan. Al-Hamdulillah. Kawin juga abg Jas akhirnya. hehe And semalam pun menyaksikan perkumpulan kanak2 (anak2 kawan) yg ada tu tak sempat jenguk sejak lahir. *Speechless* Rezeki masing-masing:)

Pagi ni, agak terasa sedikit dengan headline yg ke udara melalui buletin pagi TV3/ MHI. "Kerajaan terpaksa membelanjakan lebih separuh (RM 800 juta) dr jumlah perbelanjaan setahun untuk belanja perubatan rakyat".

Hairan, kenapa perlu gunakan perkataan terpaksa sedangkan mmg itu tugas kerajaan untuk mengadakan basic facilities kepada rakyat marhein. Kenapa tak gunakan saja perkataan harus atau perlu sedangkan memang itu tugas yg memimpin, melakukan sesuatu utk kemudahan yg dipimpin. Macam tak ikhlas bekerja sahaja. Rakyat bukan hidup percuma di negara ini, atau dibayar oleh negara utk hidup di sini. Kita berkerja, bayar itu ini termasuk jalan raya dan perkhidmatan lain.. Tapi dlm masa yg sama seringkali terdengar kerajaan terpaksa membelanjakan RM RM untuk kemudahan rakyat, subsidi rakyat.

Hmm, kalau saya tak setuju je terus dicap pembangkang ek walau sebenarnyer itu adalah luahan hati saya sebagai rakyat marhaein? Kalau macam tu kite jadi lagak Hang Tuah yg hanya membabi-buta setia pada raja yg zalim. Sedangkan sekarang sejarah membuktikan sebenarnyer Hang Jebatlah hero zaman dulu... Walaupun nama Hang Jebat seolah2 jadi keramat yg harus dielakkan di bumi Melaka sebelum ni, tp sekarang baru sahaja tercatat dlm sejarah tempat di Melaka sejak nama stadium baru di Melaka dinamakan sebagai Stadium Hang Jebat. Hmm mungkin juga saya menjadi lebih perasa sekarang (bak kata seorg kawan, sensitif sgt yer sekarang.. ). Ntahlah.

Hairan sungguh dengan hidup ini.. Hairan hairan..

Yuhuuuuu

I'm backkkk...

It has been the 2nd working day of the week. Baru tinggal seminggu, dah berlambak2 email kena cater. So buat sementara waktu ni i will berehat sementara (boleh ckp *rest in peace* for a while tak? hehe).

By the way, Al-Hamdulillah last week walimah berjalan dengan baik. Kepada kawan2 yg sudi hadir, terima kasih bebanyak:). Utk Aida yg sedang demam teruk, semoga cepat sembuh. Insya-Allah nanti2 dptler aku jenguk anak lelaki mu itu..

Oklah, nampaknyer kali ni saya tak dpt nak update blog ni sgt. Insya-ALlah ada kelapangan saya akan kembali dengan cerita ceriti celoteh saya. Sampai waktu itu, selamat menjaga diri masing2 dengan baik.

Apa2 pun, tungguuu!!!

Adat Istiadat Perkahwinan Melayu

Langkah Bendul
"Melangkah Bendul" dikaitkan dengan keadaan adik perempuan yang berkahwin terlebih dahulu sebelum kakak (atau kakak-kakak) berkahwin. Sekiranya mengikut adat sebenar, pengantin lelaki perlu menghantar setiap satu hantaran yang sama kepada adik dan kakak. Tujuan sebenar adalah untuk menjaga hati kakak kerana tidak berkahwin dahulu. Semasa dahulu, sekiranya adik yang dipinang dahulu sebelum kakak dianggap kurang manis dan kakaknya mungkin tidak akan dipinang oleh orang lain. Walaubagaimanapun, amalan ini tidak diamalkan lagi (atau kurang diamalkan). Tambahan pula Islam menggalakkan umatnya yang mampu dan telah cukup syarat-syaratnya untuk mendirikan rumahtangga.

Adat Menanam (Melaka)
Jangan terkejut sekiranya anda pergi ke majlis perkahwinan di Melaka dan mendapati seolah-olah ada kaunter pendaftaran untuk tetamu yang hadir. Ini adalah salah satu adat dalam masyarakat Melayu di Melaka dikenali sebagai Adat Menanam. Ianya boleh dikatakan satu pelaburan jangka panjang untuk keluarga tetamu yang hadir ke majlis perkahwinan kerana kebiasaannya keluarga pengantin akan membalas kunjungan perkahwinan ke atas keluarga tetamu yang hadir pada hari tersebut. Hadiah atau wang yang diberikan tetamu kepada pengantin akan diberikan 'balasan' atau 'berkat' seperti telur, pulut kuning dsb.

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So, here it goes the reason i posted above matter. I am going to take a very long leave starting from tomorrow. Untuk itu saya ingin menjemput sahabat-sahabat yang ada kelapangan untuk menghadiri jamuan rumah terbuka a.k.a. kenduri walimah my sister seperti berikut:

Tarikh: 4hb December 2004
Hari: Sabtu
Masa: 11.00 pagi - 4.00 petang
Alamat: No. 372, Jalan Indah 9, Taman Pengkalan Indah, 78000 Alor Gajah Melaka.

Peta boleh didapati di SINI. Masuk dari Tol Simpang Ampat/Alor Gajah.

So, jemput2lah datang yer. Kedatangan anda amatlah dialu2kan. Tak jumpa jalan silalah telefon. Untuk Aida & Aini dijemput hadir sekali. Kalau dpt extend invitation to your parents as well, my father said die kenal your parents sama2 tempat belajar dulu.

Sampai bertemu kembali okiehs.

Nash Equilibrium: The Game Theory

Since I am going to be on leave for quite a while, then i guess i would leave you people with something to *think* while i am away. I have been trying to complete this posting for few days and at last (al-Hamdulillah) here i come for you. This thing is quite complex (welcome to the complexity of economists hehe) , so if you have any question/comment you are free to throw the ideas. Maybe I am right, but maybe i am wrong too. We share knowledge with each other ok.

Ops, anyway does the topic above rings a bell to someone? ;) hahah Ok, I was really into this economic terms last weekend when someone called me to ask me very detail on basic economic terms: Supply & Demand. Lucky her (erm..do not know whether it is really a luck or what since she was confused with so many version of answers received from her other fellow friends), I had a book written by Michael R Baye on managerial economic and business strategy. Just discovered that he was graduated from Purdue University. Hmm, hebat juga yer university tu. Mampu keluarkan ramai penulis Ilmiah.;)

Ok, back to the topic. Well, as what claimed by the economist , economics studies covering all aspect of life including economy, income level to the politic, sociology, crime, education etc etc. So as a good economist student, I am supposed to be able to relate economic theory on the aspect of life. Here I found out that actually we could also use Nash Equilibrium in proving the existence of God;). Actually, someone told me about this but in non-economic ways. So, saje je suka2 tgk tiba2 tgk ada concept yg boleh apply juga. I just give a shoot here.

That thing goes this way:
I am trying to evaluate the value for believing in GOD and believing that world existed by mother nature (as what belief by the Atheist).

With:
A represents the Non-Believer or Atheist
B represents the Believer
&
(1) represents safe condition
(-1) represents dangerous condition

With ceteris paribus (other things remain constant), suppose at one time God can be existed or not existed at all. Thus the combination of (Exist - Not Exist) and (Not Exist –Exist) will be invalid: shaded area.

We can have a table like this:




In this case, if GOD is really exist then B will be rewarded since B believes in God while A will be punished for not believing in God. One will be in safe condition, while one will not.

If God is really not exist, then both A& B will not be punished neither will be rewarded. Since both of them will be free from any judgement, both will be safe. Thus gain 1 point.

In this equilibrium we can see that the dominant strategy is B since regardless of whether God exists or not, B will be in a safe position. But A has the 50-50 chances of whether to be safe or not.

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Another point of view… Let say I have another assumption/table.



With G represents GOD; and P represents People.

If GOD exist, for a Believer, he will be rewarded (1 point) for believing in GODbut for a non-Believer (Atheist) he will be punished (-1 point) for not believing in GOD.

If GOD is really not exist, for a Believer since he will neither be rewarded nor punished, he will be on breakeven (0 point). While for a non-Believer that will gain him (1 point) since he approves what he believe.

Now, lets examine this.
Condition 1

If we try to evaluate the relationship (R) between Safe/Happiness (V) & Insecure/Harmful (D) situation, this is what we can have:

For a Believer:
R = 1/0 = Infinity

For a Non-Believer:
R = -1/1 = -1


Condition 2
If we try to make it reverse, R between D and V (R= D/V), this is what we can have:

For a Believer:
R = 0/1 = 0

For a Non-Believer:
R = 1/-1 = -1

Which says that in Condition 1, for a Believer he will have INFINITY VALUE over the Safe & Happiness (since with the belief that there is nothing impossible for GOD, ceteris paribus). While in Condition 1, a Believer will still be in a safe position. (Note that in economics term, a “zero” value usually does not implies any loss and even at most time will be positive value in Accounting terms. But then, account is not my specialization :p )

But, for a Non-Believer in either Condition 1 or Condition 2 he will still be in ABSOLUTE LOSS.

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The conclusion:
In the view of economics value, we choose to play at the lowest risk with highest return. If we plan to play as the Atheist or Non Believer, then that will be at the price of highest risk and low gain. If we are playing as a Believer or Non Atheist, then that will be at the price of lowest risk and highest return.

As the conclusion, in whatever way it is you will be in a safe and better position to believe in GOD. :D

P/s: Any other comment?;)

Kekalahan Buat Amerika

Hmm.. Sekadar mengisi kekosongan yg dah beberapa hari tak mampu utk diupdate. Article menarik utk dikongsi bersama. :)

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Kematian askar kekalahan buat Amerika
Oleh Isa Nikmat (orangmuda@bharian.com.my)

ALLAHYARHAM Yasser Arafat terus menjadi legenda perjuangan kemerdekaan anak Palestin. Walaupun isteri George W Bush berpandangan dunia akan melupakannya, Arafat bukan nama yang dibenci kerana pembunuhan, tetapi seluruh dunia simpati dan kasih terhadap beliau dan pribumi Palestin.

Malah, majoriti masyarakat dunia tidak ingat pun nama isteri Bush. Kenyataannya lebih dianggap merapu. Mungkin ramai rakyat Amerika Syarikat (AS) juga perlukan beberapa saat hendak mengingati namanya. Ringkasnya, orang tidak peduli pun.

Hal yang pasti ialah masyarakat dunia risau dengan tindakan Bush. Kerana keputusan kerajaan pimpinannya, 1,214 keluarga AS kini menangisi kematian anak mereka yang berperang dalam pencerobohan di Iraq.

Malah, pentadbiran Bush terpaksa mencari jalan supaya dapat memerapkan berita beg mayat tenteranya tiba setiap hari di AS dari Iraq. Kepiluan keluarga tentera yang mati disejukkan dengan penganugerahan pingat, penghormatan dan kunjungan pegawai tinggi tentera ke rumah. Walaupun secara teknikal semua itu adalah `collateral damage' untuk Washington, kebanggaan dipupuk sebagai tanda mati untuk negara bagi mengalih perhatian keluarga daripada kesedihan.

Jika tidak, kebangkitan pelajar universiti dan seluruh masyarakat AS akan sekali lagi menghalang pentadbiran Rumah Putih daripada meratah Iraq, misi di Afghanistan, Iran, Syria dan sebarang negara pemilik petroleum dan uranium yang menjadi sasaran strategik.

AS tidak mampu menahan kebangkitan rakyatnya seperti mereka menghentikan misi ketenteraan di Vietnam. Namun, setakat mana Bush dan penasihatnya dapat membendung berita kematian. Kecederaan, trauma perang dan kematian sentiasa menghantui tenteranya di luar negara.

Kecederaan, trauma perang dan kematian adalah kekalahan buat AS, manakala bagi pejuang kemerdekaan, kematian adalah kemuncak kemenangan dalam peperangan. Apa lagi bagi kebanyakan masyarakat Asia Barat, tiap kematian mesti dibayar dengan satu nyawa.

Maka di mana penghujungnya kematian dan kekalahan buat Bush dan tenteranya? Setiap hari mereka menghitung kematian. Setiap kali Fallujah atau Tebing Gaza menangisi kematian, mereka boleh menjangkakan kebangkitan berganda pejuang kemerdekaan daripada kalangan anak Palestin, Iraq dan Afghanistan.

Menyedari atau berasa bahang budaya perjuangan dan kebangkitan kemerdekaan itu, bukan saja Bush dan Tel Aviv tidak senang duduk, malah seluruh rakyat AS kerisauan. Semua kepentingan AS dan sekutunya, khususnya Britain dan Australia terpaksa berjaga-jaga. Ketenteraman fikiran bukan lagi menyelimuti tidur atau pakaian waktu jaga mereka.

Sebab itu, kalau boleh setiap pelancong ke AS mahu ditelanjangkan ketika pemeriksaan imigresen. Setiap kedutaan mereka di luar negara terpaksa dilebarkan jarak selamat, dilaburkan belanja keselamatan dan dibantu kawalan oleh polis tempatan.

Di Britain, semakin mereka menyisih bangsa berketurunan Asia, bertambah terancam mereka terasa. Berita pasukan keselamatan membelasah teruk orang Asia disyaki melakukan jenayah lebih banyak menggugat ketenteraman awam.

Di Afghanistan, gerakan Taliban dan nasionalis kemerdekaan belum pernah terpadam. Sekali sekala aroma kehangatannya terpancar di bumi kaya petroleum itu.

Sementara itu, dunia lain terpaksa memastikan tiada bibit `keganasan' yang boleh mengundang campur tangan kuasa besar, manakala di Malaysia ada kelompok yang berasa dizalimi kerana dihukum disebabkan kesalahan sendiri atau suara songsang mereka tidak dibenarkan.

Di Fallujah, setiap lelaki berusia lebih 15 tahun dipastikan kematian oleh tentera AS. Kezaliman bermaharajalela di Tebing Gaza atau sebut saja sudut strategik dan kawasan subur Palestin.

Semuanya membibitkan kebangkitan lebih ramai pejuang menentang Bush. Rakyat AS sendiri menerima tempias besarnya. Walaupun sebahagian besarnya rakyat Islam yang sama terasa kesengsaraan saudara mereka, di Chile demonstrasi mencetuskan rusuhan sebagai bantahan terhadap Bush. Mereka sudah meluat.

Namun, bagi kebanyakan masyarakat dunia, pada zaman ini penentangan secara fizikal dan ketenteraan bukan lagi penyelesaiannya. Malah, pendekatan membentuk perikatan keamanan antarabangsa memberikan sinar harapan. Persidangan masyarakat bertamadun dunia oleh Perikatan Keamanan Rakyat Malaysia (AMAN Malaysia) awal tahun depan boleh membuahkan hasil agenda dunia ini. Setiap anak Malaysia dan warga dunia mempunyai tanggungjawab menjayakannya.

Biarlah Bush, Condolezza Rice dan penasihat mereka mencari rasional untuk memenuhi agenda penguasaan dunia Tel Aviv. Berapa ramai lagi harus mati untuk dasar luar amalan Bush? Ketika pejuang mencapai kemuncak jihad mereka, tiap hari AS menghadapi kematian tenteranya. Tiap hari kematian adalah kekalahan buat AS. Mampukah Bush mengurus perspektif dunia menerusi perang saraf dan media massa?
Sumber : Berita harian Online

Hari Raya Open Table

Mentang2 boss takde hari ni, rasa relaks sangat ari ni. ehhe. Tgh hari tadi we just had our CCM (division) Hari Raya Open House. Now, around 4 o'clock majlis sambutan hari raya utk ibu pejabat telekom malaysia. Kat lobby menara tu tgh sibuk ngan pelbagai juadah yg disediakan.. hmm.. tapi dah kenyang makan tadi, tak rasa nak sambung lagi.

Al-Hamdulillah, masih rasa nikmat kenyang dalam suasana aman damai. Lately ni seringkali terfikirkan ttg saudara2 sesama Islam kita yg berada dalam kemelut perang dan ditentang hebat. Sedang bergembira di pagi raya Aidilfitri 1 SYawal tu, dapat msg dari seorg sahabat di Fallujah 1,000 orang muslim telah terkorban. Sedang kite bergelak ketawa ni, mungkin ada yg sedang bertarung utk satu nyawa dan satu kehidupan. Sana terlalu byk kesukaran, kat sini ade pula org yg tiba2 menjadi depressed (akuler tu.. :D). Allahu Akbar.. I'm speechless when talking about this.

Oklah, pengakhiran minggu ni. Hanya nak inform kepada pengguna2 Maybank2U, maybank akan charge kite effectively by 20/12/2004 untuk penggunaan ke atas Maybank2U. Check here for more info.

Secrets of the Opposite Sex

Lack of communication skills and always lead to misunderstand.

I think i am moving towards this. :) It seems hard for me to do the way of thinking while I was still in the studying's time. Everything seems to be more complicated, actually I make it seems complicated to myself. I am learning back something I have been forgotten :Learn to relax, take a deep breath and not take hard on small matters.

Please pray for me, for ALlah let me always be in control of myself. :)

So, here i am. Came accross a nice article for me, and to share it with all of you. The tittle, it does not mean between , boyfriend & girlfriend, or husband & wife only but wider perspective to friends, sisters & brothers, daugther/mother and father/son, and even between boss and subordinates. Have a nice day.


Secrets of the Opposite Sex

Many jokes, problems, and conversations revolve around the communications differences between men and women. Women are often teased for "gabbing," "nagging," and "chattering on about nothing." Men are often accused of "not listening," "not paying attention," or "dominating conversation" when conversing with a woman. These problems occur because neither gender is reading the others nonverbal and verbal listening cues correctly.

During conversation, women tend to give nonverbal communications feedback such as nodding and smiling as well as verbal feedback like "I know what you mean" or "uh, huh" or "right...exactly" which lets the speaker know he or she is making sense. Men, on the other hand, tend to stay silent when listening and don't give much nonverbal feedback to the speaker because they are concentrating on what the speaker is saying and feel they are being polite. These differences in listening styles often cause difficulty in communications between men and women.

When a man is speaking with a woman, he often misreads the woman's listening cues to mean he should continue speaking, not that he is simply making sense and therefore men continue talking and often dominate conversation. Women, in turn, often misread the quiet listening cues of the man to mean that he is bored with the conversation or that she is not making sense. Therefore, women often cut their part of the conversation short, repeat things they already stated, or ask the man they are speaking with if he understands what is being said. This causes many men to feel that they are being nagged or that the woman is unsure of herself and what she is saying.

To help make mixed gender conversations work more smoothly, men should try to give more nonverbal or verbal listening feedback to female speakers. Men should also realize that the verbal and nonverbal listen cues given to them by the women the are speaking with mean only that the woman understands what is being said, not that the man should continue talking and dominate the conversation. Women should learn not to be concerned if the men they are talking to aren't giving the listening cues they are accustomed to. Usually, if the male listener is quite, he is listening. So, ladies, don't ask him if he understands what is being said.

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Catatan Perjalanan Nov 2004

Pulang dari bercuti, mula bekerja hari ini...

Mula

Catatan Perjalanan November 2004
Syawal 1425H

Kite sememangnya tak mampu
Untuk memenangi hati semua orang
Dan kadang2 sukar juga untuk
Memenangi hati sendiri

Mungkin pada satu masa
Tiba-tiba satu hari
Kita rasa kita telah hilang kawalan ke atas hidup kita
Segala-galanya seolah-olah tidak menjadi seperti apa
Yang kite harapkan

Untuk kesekian kalinya
Aku kecewa lagi
Sudah tewaskah aku dengan kehidupan ini...?

Akhir

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Selamat Hari Raya

OK, hari ni saya akan habis bekerja utk Ramadhan 1425H ni by 5.00 pm. I thought dptlah buat something special for all of you, but seems like time is so limited.

So utk semua, saya nak ucapkan Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri. Maaf zahir batin atas segala salah dan silap Ok. Kire 0-0 la lepas ni. Jemputlah dtg ke rumah lepas hari rabu, 4 syawal. RUmah saya kat Melaka la OK.

So, ni map rumah saya. Sesape ade kelapangan mehler dtg. MAP

Salam Sayang buat semua, sampai berjumpa lagi. Muahhs!

The 26th Day: Yehoo.. Abis keje daa

Yes, today is going to be my last working day before hari raya leave. Erm dalam seronok2 nak balik kampung ni, ada tanggungjawab yg terselit.. Berat juga ni.. isk, baru rasa nak seronok.. Apa yg seronok ek pasal raya ni? Sbb kalau fikir2kan, kite semua mmgler selalu juga jumpa ahli keluarga.. Apa ek.. :-? Hmm..agaknyer sbb thn ni dah besar, so semua yg kecik2 kena dtg salam, minta maap. Kalau tak, takdeler duit raya.. Gitu, bolehlah buli diorang sket.. heh heh heh.. >:)

Mmm pagi ni aku sibuk nak nyiapkan sebahagian lagi kad raya. Isk, tak nyempat2la nak tulis. Kalau tak sempat, lenlain tu aku kasi e-card je ler jawabnyer. :)) Dlm kesibukan semalam, aku terbaca satu tulisan dr saudara Zaafarani Zafirul. Terasa macam, mungkin juga betul kata2 dia tu. Seringkali kita rasa nak buat baik, tapi bile dah ada depan mata cara dan jalan tu..kite just abaikan ajer.. bukan kepada org lain sahaja, malah diri sendiri pun seringkali terperangkap dalam keadaan begitu.. hmm sementara waktu utk pagi ni sebelum kite updatekan lagi entry hari ini.. just a moment to share a short morning story from Bro Zaafarani Zafirul:

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SUDAH SEDEMIKIAN KERASKAH HATI INI?

Di dalam perjalanan menuju kepejabat, aku terlelap menikmati sejuknya udara dalam bas. Seketika aku seperti terlihat dalam kesamaran mataku susuk tubuh seorang ibu setengah umur berdiri tidak jauh dari tempat dudukku. Tetapi, rasa ngantuk dan lelahku mengalahkan niat baik untuk memberikan tempat duduk untuk ibu tersebut.

Turun dari bas, baru lah sisi baik hati ini bergumam; " Andai aku berikan tempat duduk kepada ibu tadi, mungkin pagi hari ini keberkahan dapat kuraih ".

" Siapa tahu redha Allah untuk ku di hari ini dari doa dan terima kasih ibu itu jika saja kuberikan tempat dudukku ... "

" Ah.......kenapa baru kemudian diri ini menyesal? "

Semalam dalam perjalanan pulang dengan kereta api, duduk diepanku seorang lelaki tua berusia lewat 50an. Muncul seorang penjual air minuman, dan dia segera menggamit untuk membeli.
Tangan kirinya memegang secawan air minuman sementara tangan satunya meraba-raba sakunya. Sesaat dia memperhatikan beberapa keping yang ia mampu raih dari bahagian terdalam sakunya, ternyata.. dia mengembalikan secawan air minuman yang sudah digenggamnya kepada penjual air sambil menahan rasa hausnya.

Aku yang sedari tadi di depan lelaki tua itu hanya dapat menjadikan serangkaian adegan itu sebagai tontonan. Tidak ada tawaran kebaikan keluar dari mulut ini untuk membelikannya air minuman, meski di sakuku terdapat sejumlah wang yang bahkan dapat untuk membeli lebih dari secawan air! Bayangkan, cuma RM1.00 yang diperlukan lelaki tua itu.... tetapi hati ini tak juga tergerak?

Kelmarin, sebelum Isyak, juga dalam perjalanan pulang. Hanya berjarak 200 meter dari pejabat, aku melihat pemandangan yang menyentuh hati. Di pinggir jalan, satu keluarga sedang menikmati juadah kecil berbuka puasa mereka. Suami, isteri beserta dua anaknya itu tetap lahap meski yang mereka nikmati hanya sebungkus kuih entah pemberian siapa. Sempat langkah ini terhenti setelah tujuh atau delapan langkah melepasi mereka, sempat pula aku berfikir untuk menghampiri keluarga itu untuk sekedar mengajak mereka makan. Tapi ... bayangan ingin segera bertemu anak-anakku di rumah mengalihkan langkahku untuk meneruskan perjalanan.

Padahal, dengan wang yang aku miliki saat itu, sepuluh bungkus nasi goreng pun dapat aku belikan. Apalagi jumlah mereka hanya empat orang. Dan kalau pun harus tergesa-gesa, namun semestinya aku masih boleh memberikan sejumlah wang untuk makan mereka malam itu, atau
juga untuk sahur esok hari. Ahhhh, kenapa kaki ini justeru meneruskan langkah sekadar untuk memburu kucupan anak-anakku sebelum mereka tidur?

Selepas sahur, aku cuba renungi semua perjalanan hidup ini. Tak terasa, hari demi hari di bulan Ramadhan mulai berlalu. Bulan yang seharusnya menjadikan kita lebih dekat kepada Allah dan sesama manusia, melatih kita untuk mampu mengendalikan diri dan mempertajam kepekaan sosial.... ternyata belum berbekas pada diri ini.

Ya Allah, sudah sedemikian keraskah hati ini? Sehingga tanpa rasa berdosa kulepaskan begitu banyak kesempatan berbuat baik. Bukankah selama ini aku selalu berdoa agar Engkau memberikanku kemudahan untuk berbuat baik terhadap sesama? Tetapi ketika Engkau berikan jalan itu, aku malah melepaskannya.

Berikan kesempatan itu lagi untukku, Ya Allah...
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The 25th Day: Systemic Thinking

It was such a highly intellectual week : that was what i felt after came back from Brother Fazrul's Systemic Thinking course last week at Segamat. Despite of the ala-kadar accommodation, thigh schedule and the group-cooked food, but I feel that the course was quite inspired and fulfilling my soul. Though we (Siti & I) joined in the middle of the course but at least now I quite understand what Fazrul is trying to say in his book: Pemikiran Sistemik that I bought November, last year. Before this it seems to be quite difficult for me to complete my reading on his book, but now I guess I got some ideas and will try to finish it. Walaupun mencabar tahap intelektual tertinggi that I have, I am proud to say that i could stay awake for the entire part. heh Al-Hamdulillah, i am not that bad jugakla kan:P

It is great to be around great people. But dalam masa yg sama, amazed juga dgn apa yg this young brother can achieved at the same age of mine. Terasa diri sedikit terkebelakang dlm mengejar apa yg pernah diimpikan masa masih belajar dahulu. But then, he read a lot and I read just a little. He watch TV at a very minimal I guess, but for me TV is important after a long busy day at work. Hehe what a contra, and yet I wish to be like him- able to do what oneself wants to do. I just do not know where and how to start everything.. In the end, I let go everything..

He is not the only one, yet he is another example yg boleh diambil kira. Di kala ramai rakan2 lain yg berjaya meletakkan diri mereka lebih baik dr kebanyakkan org, dan ada yg telah mengorak langkah lebih jauh..Terfikir pula adakah aku ni sebenarnyer mensia-siakan masa selama beberapa thn kebelakangan ni.. Terasa rendah jugalah diri bila berhadapan dengan mereka2 yg hebat & berilmu ini - esp. yg sama2 dlm perjuangan dulu…

By the way, on my way back to Melaka (from Segamat) on last saturday– while waiting for my parents to pick me up at the bus station I found out a few moments before azan maghrib the sky was sooo beautiful, with rainbow some more. I can’t tell by words how beautiful it is, but really I never saw something as beautiful as it is. Pity I don’t have any camera with me, else I might share the view with all of you. Subhanallah, kalau dunia pun Allah boleh tunjuk sesekali apa itu kecantikan dan keindahan, ntah macamana rupanya syurga yg berlipat kali ganda indah dari dunia itu..

Apa2 pun, moga Allah sentiasa lindungi aku dan hati kawan-kawanku. Dan moga Allah terus memberi petunjuk kepada kita semua, memberi keampunanNya yg tidka pernah putus dan memelihara kita dari terpesong dari jalannya. Insya-Allah.

Aminkanlah Doa Ini

Assalamualaikum wbt.
Received this email. Maybe boleh smapaikan pesanan ni kepada kawan2 yg lain. Dari siapa saya tak dpt nak kenal pasti, dah byk diforwardkan. Moga2 doa kita dimakbulkan Allah SWT.

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Al Fatihah kepada yang baru terkorban di Tak Bai, selatan Siam dan sudahi doa dibawah dengan selawat kpd Nabi s.a.w.

Saya setuju mengambil cara ini sebagai satu qaedah untuk untuk memohon kepada Allah menurunkan bantuan dan pertolongan kepada umat Islam yang tertindas dan teraniaya oleh musuh musuh Allah. Untuk menjadikan lebih berkat dan berkesan dahulukan dengan niat yang ikhlas, pasrah kepada Allah dan membaca Al-Fatihah sekali dengan niat Allah segerakan mengangkat hajat kita dengan kaifiat dan karamah Al-Fatihah yang dibaca secara tartil.

Kalau rantai e-mail ini sambung menyambung sehingga ke 100 orang bermakna 100 Fatihah telah dibaca untuk tujuan dan niat yang satu.. Amin

Al-Fatihah......
"Ya Allah, Tuhan Sekalian Alam, Selamatkanlah umat Islam yg sedang sengsara di Palestin, Afghanistan, Iraq, Chechnya dan serata pelusuk dunia akibat dari angkara mungkar dan kekejaman musuh-musuh Mu.

Peliharakanlah mereka, lindungilah mereka, kasihanilah mereka dan berikanlah rahmatMu ke atas mereka. Satu-padukanlah hati kami untuk menghancurkan musuh-musuh-Mu. ... wasallAllahu 'ala saidina muhammad, wa 'ala muhammad ... Amin, ya Rabbal A'lamin.

Ingat lagi tak isu ni?

Dlm 4hb Pose ari tu..kite ada post satu isu pasal Wanita Dlm Haid & Puasa. So, thanx a lot to Ainurul, a friend of mine yg telah dapatkan lebih banyak info. Di sini kita paste balik ape yg die hantar dalam email Kroni_kite utk tatapan dan makluman semua. Jika tak dpt tgk tulisan Arabic tu, sila tukar encoding languange [View Encoding Arabic (Windows)]. OK.

Ainurul wrote:
Insyaallah, persoalan yang timbul dapat dipahami dengan lebih lanjut dengan membaca petikan ini.mmg byk khilaf dalam hal nih, ..perkara ini mmg terlalu byk yang telah disalah ertikan...wallaualam.

1) Sumber: Ahkam Online

Syeikh Dr Yusuf al-Qaradhawi mengatakan : "Jika seseorang yang haidh suci ditengah hari, dengan erti darah tidak keluar lagi, maka dia dia digalakkan (mustahab) menahan diri pada baki (selebih) harinya, dan bukan di HARUSkan, dan ada dikalangan mazhab yang MEWAJIBKAN menahan diri keatasnya. Pandangan yang pertama tadi (yg mengatakan digalakkan sahaja) adalah benar" -[Fiqh al-Siyam, ms 460].

Kenyataan ini juga dikaitkan kepada semua keadaan dimana status uzur menjadi tidak uzur pada siang hari didalam bulan Ramadhan, seperti balik dari Musafir pada tengah hari, dimana status musafirnya telah luput. al-Qaradhawi mengatakan, ia cuma mustahab aje.... bukan harus dan bukan wajib. Dengan erti kata lain, dapat pahala jika Imsak. Imam al-Nawawi rh mengatakan bahawa :

فذهب جمهور العلماء إلى أنهم لا يلزمهم الإمساك لأنهم أفطروا بعذر . ولكنهم لا يفطرون جهراً أمام من لا يعرف عذرهم حتى لا يكون ذلك سبباً لإساءة الظن بهم .
"Jumhur ulama' berpendapat tidak harus mereka Imsak (menahan diri) kerana sesungguhnya mereka berbuka dengan keuzuran. Akan tetapi mereka tidaklah makan dibenarkan makan secara terbuka dihadapan mereka yang tidak tahu bahawa mereka ini uzur, agar ia tidak menyebabkan mereka bersangka buruk terhadap dia"- [Sila lihat al-Majmu' - 6/167, 6/168, 6/173].

Ibn Qudaamah didalam al-Mughni mengatakan:

فَأَمَّا مَنْ يُبَاحُ لَهُ الْفِطْرُ فِي أَوَّلِ النَّهَارِ ظَاهِرًا وَبَاطِنًا , كَالْحَائِضِ وَالنُّفَسَاءِ وَالْمُسَافِرِ , وَالصَّبِيِّ , وَالْمَجْنُونِ , وَالْكَافِرِ , وَالْمَرِيضِ , إذَا زَالَتْ أَعْذَارُهُمْ فِي أَثْنَاءِ النَّهَارِ , فَطَهُرَتْ الْحَائِضُ وَالنُّفَسَاءُ , وَأَقَامَ الْمُسَافِرُ , وَبَلَغَ الصَّبِيُّ , وَأَفَاقَ الْمَجْنُونُ , وَأَسْلَمَ الْكَافِرُ , وَصَحَّ الْمَرِيضُ الْمُفْطِرُ , فَفِيهِمْ رِوَايَتَانِ ; إحْدَاهُمَا , يَلْزَمُهُمْ الْإِمْسَاكُ فِي بَقِيَّةِ الْيَوْمِ . وَهُوَ قَوْلُ أَبِي حَنِيفَةَ . . . وَالثَّانِيَةُ , لا يَلْزَمُهُمْ الإِمْسَاكُ . وَهُوَ قَوْلُ مَالِكٍ , وَالشَّافِعِيِّ . وَرُوِيَ عَنْ ابْنِ مَسْعُودٍ أَنَّهُ قَالَ : مَنْ أَكَلَ أَوَّلَ النَّهَارِ فَلْيَأْكُلْ آخِرَهُ
"Mengenai mereka yang dibenarkan berbuka zahir dan batin pada permulaan hari, seperti wanita yang haidh, nifas, musafir, kanak-kanak kecil, orang gila, orang kafir dan mereka yang sakit, jika uzur berpuasa luput pada siang hari, dimana wanita yang datang haidh atau nifas menjadi suci, permusafiran telah tamat, kanak-kanak kecil menjadi baligh, orang gila jadi siuman, orang kafir memeluk agama Islam, orang sakit menjadi baik/pulih, maka terdapat 2 pandangan berkenaan dengan situasi ini ; salah satunya mengharuskan imsak/menahan diri dari baki harinya.

Ini adalah pandangan Abu Hanifah...... Pandangan yang kedua ialah, tidak harus Imsak. Ini adalah pandangan Malik dan al-Syafie. Dari riwayat Ibn Mas'ud sesungguhnya beliau berkata : 'Barangsiapa yang pada permulaan harinya makan/minum, maka dibenarkan makan di hujungnya juga"

Ibn Utsaimin rh. didalam bukunya di tanya oleh seseorang bahawa beliau (sh. Utsaimin ) pernah mengatakan mereka yang luput alasan uzurnya masih boleh berbuka, beliau menjawab :-
نعم ، ما سمعته من أني ذكرت أن الحائض إذا طهرت في أثناء اليوم لا يجب عليها الإمساك ، وكذلك المسافر إذا قدم ، فهذا صحيح عني ، وهو إحدى الروايتين عن الإمام أحمد رحمه الله وهو مذهب مالك والشافعي رحمهما الله
"Ya, apa yang anda dengar, bahawa saya berkata bahawa jika wanita yang didalam keadaan haidh menjadi bersih/suci pada hari siang tidak wajib baginya Imsak (menahan diri dari makan), dan begitulah hukumnya keatas musafir jika ia kembali dari permusafiran, maka ia sahih dari ku.

Bahawa terdapat 2 riwayat dari Imam Ahmad rh., dan ia juga pandangan Imam Malik rh dan Imam Al-Syafie rh" - [Fataawa al-Siyaam,ms. 102, e-booknya boleh didapati di web sitenya] Malah al-Hafiz Imam al-Nawawi mengatakan :
إذَا قَدِمَ الْمُسَافِرُ فِي أَثْنَاءِ نَهَارِ رَمَضَانَ وَهُوَ مُفْطِرٌ , فَوَجَدَ امْرَأَتَهُ قَدْ طَهُرَتْ فِي أَثْنَاءِ النَّهَارِ مِنْ حَيْضٍ أَوْ نِفَاسٍ أَوْ بَرَأَتْ مِنْ مَرَضٍ وَهِيَ مُفْطِرَةٌ فَلَهُ وَطْؤُهَا وَلا كَفَّارَةَ عَلَيْهِ عِنْدَنَا بِلا خِلَافٍ
"Jika seorang musafir yang pulang ke rumah diwaktu siang Ramadhan dan dia tidak berpuasa, dan mendapati isterinya bersih dari haidh dan nifas masa hari itu, atau sudah pulih dari sakit dan tidak berpuasa, maka dibenarkan dia mensetubuhi isterinya dan tidaklah ada kifarah baginya menurut pandangan kami" - [al-Majmu', 6/174].

Hukum berjima' dibulan Ramadhan ini tidak sama dengan scenario (yang dimaksudkan oleh Imam al-Nawawi) bagi mereka (suami dan isteri) yang luput uzur pada siang harinya dengan alasan uzur, bukannya orang yang berpuasa sengaja berbuka puasa kerana ingin melakukan jima' pada siang hari Ramadhan.

Begitulah serba sedikit mengenai hukum yang dikhilafkan ulama mengenai situasi luput uzur di siang hari Ramadhan. Jumhur berpendapat hanya mustahab/digalakkan imsak, dan bukannya harus atau wajib. WA. Persoalan2 lain blh rujuk di sini:
1. Fiqh Puasa[Haidh]

2. Lain2 Bab Mengenai Muslimah

source:
http://www.al-ahkam.com.my/forum2/viewtopic.php?t=27696

wallaualam

Ramadhan 21: MY Imagination

I had a strange dream last few days. It's really a science fiction, now is that I am into it. It was really funny i guess.

Well, the story goes like this. I came from another planet/dimension that actually have a diplomatic relationship with human on earth. As part of the diplomatic relationship, we were sending people (rakyat marhein) from our dimension to learn and live with human. Among them were high ranking officers that took vows not to break any of our secret. Kire2 cam aku ni dr secret intelligence la.. But then, these certain officers telah berpaling tadah and ada buat allies ngan several penduduk bumi. Rancangan mereka ini akan merbahayakan kedudukan my dimension and boleh melakukan kerosakan di muka bumi. I was being sent to identify those officers, and brought back all of our citizens from the earth. TOld u before, since we have a diplomatic relationship with people on Earth (cerite ni berlatarkan Malaysia ok:P) we had to go to a big free space i.e. KLIA in order for our dimension ship mendarat (lebih kurangla.. since the ship/plane tidak mendarat tapi terapung2 kat udara). But we are using a different type of ticket and pintu masuk.

At the same time, we are not supposed to use any of our dimension stuff kat atas bumi. I was given a limited period of time, managed to identified those bad people and loyal officers. SInce we were quite late (aku lupe nape shuttle bus yg patut amik kitorang lambat..jem kot?:D), we were not managed to get everyone on the plane. Ok, i was the highest ranking officer at the moment, reporting to our ketua at my dimension using a sofistikated and technology wise system-so i decided to leave those bad officers dekat bumi. Only certain of them will be brought back for soalsiasat.. and the imagination goes on and on samapai aku terjaga.

Seperti biasa, alat2 canggih yg berada dlm satu2 filem. Aku ada satu alat yg bentuknya besar sikit dr pen, macam laser pointer. Bile tekan button, ape yg keluar? Jeng jeng jeng, space shuttle di udara yg akan wujud dlm bentuk Mutlak (since diekeluar macam cahaya) dan boleh masuk ke dalamnya. ANd i had this shoes yg boleh mengurangkan tekanan grafiti dr bumi dan menyebabkan kite naik ke udara. Then, di sisi kasut tu ade speed button yg akan memcepatkan perjalanan.

By the way, i am not so into Star Wars.. Superman/Smallville pun takdeler sgt-dah lama berkurangan.. paling2 pun The Charms, tapis ekarang dah takde and mimpi aku pun takde kaitan pasal magic.. and i don't wish to be someone who is not from Earth. aku tak tauler awat mimpi jadi gitu..canggih tak mimpi aku? :P
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Balik ke dunia nyata.. Bush menang lagi? hmm..not so different than my expectation. Sebabnya, i think Kerry don't have so much karisma in himself. I even heard that he is more or less the same. Ni ada kwn kasi link utk share. Tengok2 lah sikit.. APa yg boleh kite buat ngan diorang? Sedih sungguh melihat saudara sesama Islam kita terlalu hebat dugaan dan tekanan yg mereka hadapi.. Terlalu..sedangkan kita masih aman damai di sini.. Allah, entah sampai bile keamanan yg ada pada kita. Moga ALlah tak timpakan bala di sini...

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Petang ni nak berangkat ke Segamat, menemankan kawan ke satu program dan sambil curi2 belajar. :) Minggu ni nampaknya akan menjadi minggu yg sibuk. Balik dr segamat sabtu nanti, ahad ade majlis berbuka puasa dengan kawan2 lama (Ex-TIKL). Alahai, terlupa pula dgn temujanji nak berbuka di rumah seorg kenalan di SHah ALam.. Puasa makin nak tamat.. Amalan kurang, majlis makan tak terpenuh..hmmm.. Jgnlah kelak jadi aku org yg rugi..

Oklah.. sesape rasa nak kasi komen esp pasal bab cerite kat atas tu..tulis ler.. sesape rasa nak cerite lanjut, meh tepon kite. Telepon takleh call out lagi sekarang, malaih la nak gi bayo dulu.. Duit nak pakai utk raya dulu..hehe lagipun tak urgent sgt. bioler sesekali org plak cari kite, dr kite selalu cari org.. eheeheh..take care all.. till then.

wasalam.

Ramadhan 19: makan lagi

I was on MC yesterday due to food poisoning/salah makan. The day before i went to eat at a restaurant. Siti was rite, the food was nothing extraordinary..only the number of food was quite a lot. I was vomitted 4 times in 2 hours, and doctor advised me not to fast. So that will be the first time i did not fast due to illness, and the first time i took MC this year. Ingatkan boleh la buat hatrick no medical leave..tapi tak berjaya pula tahun ni:D. Hmm, terasa la juga hikmahnya bila org sakit dikecualikan drpd berpuasa..

Then today, i am having another buffet dekat luar. Hhuhu makan lagi. Hopefully kali ni tak sakit2 lagi perut ku. Thank God that I have siti to follow-up and cofirmed with everyone on the list.

Hmm..by the way, last buka puasa gathering with my fellow friends made me almost totally lost.. when almost all of them talking about their babies, unborn babies and master classes.. i was trapped in the middle, as i have nothing to share on the topics.. huhuh they are so advance.. terasa sedikit janggal, tapi takpelah.. kena belajar juga biasa2kan diri part2 ni:p bak kate my cousin, "mmg patutler kak zue tertekan.. " hahahah

erm...cukuplah kot utk kali ni.. will come back later.. i am still waiting for someone who promised to bring us makan kat The Ship ni.. hehehe bile ek diknon?:p

Nice link

Minggu ni aku tak balik kampung. Tapi Jaya Jusco tengah Sales.. huhuhu duit gaji plak dah habis allocate utk mende lain.. aishehman.. Kalau ade pakwe kan best, leh PINJAM duit dia utk belanja2.. *;) ting*..
tapi kalau ade husben lagi best kan.. Leh GUNE duit dia untuk berbelanja.. muahahah *:)) Wink*

Few friends forward to me a nice website. A website that tells people about kaum2 yg telah dimusnahkan di muka bumi, with reasons of why and how Allah SWT did it.. Ayat2 diambil daripada Al-Quran, sungguh menjadi bukti kebesaran dan kebenaran .. :)

So, selamat menonton!!
Bangsa Yang Musnah

p/s: I just received my 1st Hari Raya card. I want more Hari Raya card, a hardcopy one not the flash2, or the e-card tau:p haha susah ckp ngan org Multimedia ni!
p/s 2: Today is my mother's birthday. Happy Birthday Mak.. :)

Mid Ramadhan

Sungguh, sekejap sahaja masa berlalu. Bila terasa masa berlalu terlalu cepat, tertanya balik pada diri sendiri agaknya tahun ni aku banyak main2 dan banyak buang masa.. ah, jauh lagilah untuk malam lailatul-qadr thn ni jikalau begitu.. Harap2 sia2 masa yg ada ni masih dpt dipergunakan sebaiknya.. insya-Allah..

My cousin (same age with me) is at my house for 2 days already, just relaxing here for few days before going to back to her father's house. She seems to be so excited being here since my mother is around and cook for us adik-beradik. My aunt (my cousin's mother) was passed away when we were 9-10 years old, and after few years her father remarried. But her stepmother was quite young, and she seems to lost a mother's touch.... She always told my sisters on how lucky they are for still having mother that could help them in so many things. It's really shown esp. during her engagement day.. And how many time she said if it is possible to ask her mother to come back from death, but then she knows it is impossible.. Sedih pun ada juga bila fikir balik, i can't imagine myself for not having a mother.

ha..sekarang dah dekat nak raya, ramai betul bertanya.. telekom tak dpt bonus ke? hmm sunyi je thn ni..ade sesape nak tolong jawab? Laili ke?:p By the way, i am planning a berbuka puasa pada 2/11bersama rakan2 rapat esp. a group of people yg mmg tiap2 tahun berbuka bersama setakat ni. Mostly they were cyberjaya ex-SRC members :) . Thn lepas kami pergi ke Vistana Hotel, the year before to Restoran Nelayan.. Thn ni insya-Allah samda ke Hotel Midah atau ke Dewan PErdana Felda , tak decide lagi. Ada sesapa nak ikut? Bleh habaq mai before ahad ni keh..

Kepala aku rasa ditzy balik.. kenapa asyik rasa pening je sekarang tak tahu lah.. Seems like i am start to feel boring with my work. Rasa confuse dah mula la balik ni. Isk, PMS ka? :)) hahahah life.. sometimes bila roda di atas kita rasa seronok sgt, bila roda turun ke bawah terasa macam erti kehidupan dah berkurangan..wallahualam.
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The 13th Day

It has been quite sometimes i left this blog, but looks like i have few pengunjung setia until the site tag i put here few days back reached around 20-30 times pages viewed a day.. hehe thanx thanx. i always thought that actually nobody was around reading my blog. So, now it seems that my assumption was wrong..

Oh, by the way.. I guess few of other people also seems to calculating the 'days'. Kalau takleh baca kat blog saya ni pun nampaknyer Kak Qin, aida punya pun boleh jenguk juga;) har har har.

I know that i have several promises to be cash. I was trying hard to remember the point on "How to maintain a relationship@How to attract men". I tried several weeks, only that these vivid points became clear this morning. Once a friend of mine told me that if someone say that the difficult part of a relationship is to start it, he said yes it is thru because it is the time where you have to struggle and show your effort that that someone is really meant something to you. But, it is harder in a relationship because you need to keep the effort in order to maintain the relationship. He was once failed, but now seems to live happily ever after with his wife and child.

If you asked me about this question few years back, maybe it won't be as difficult as today. I used to think more like a man rather a woman last time, in which i have a boast of energy. Used to call the type of 'stereotype image of woman' as typical women. Now, i think that i am becoming that typical type of women. No wonder all the test i took last time change a lot to other descriptions. hehe isk, Aini kite dah perah otak abis2 dah ni utk ingat ni. So, here you are with the tips. Thanx to the brother who used to nagging me here and there, the credit goes to him. Sorrylah yer, adik sorang ni masih tak pandai nak apply tips tu..hahah. BTW, I did try few times some of the tips, and it went quite well. :)

Tips to maintain a relationship
1. Selalu menggunakan kata nama diri, kurangkan penggunaan kata ganti diri. Penggunaan kata nama diri akan menyebabkan orang yang mendengarnya terasa dekat/rapat dengan kita. Contohnya, jika memberikan pendapat peribadi (nada suara biasa sahaja):
Saya rasa sepatutnya perkara macam ini boleh dielakkan drpd berlaku. <--ayat agak formal, kurang mesra, bersifat mendapatkan point sahaja, environment akan jadi macam kaku sedikit. So, org di sekeliling akan merasakan tekanan secara tidak langsung yang wujud.
Ika rasa sepatutnyer perkara macam ini boleh dielakkan drpd berlaku <--ayat ada unsur tidak formal, bernada mententeramkan dan create environment yg lebih 'release' dan mesra. Orang akan rasa lebih mudah utk berkomunikasi dengan kita dan rasa lebih free to talk.

2. Memberi hadiah kepada pasangan tanpa perlu menunggu hari tertentu. I think this thing has also been raised by Aida in her previous posting. Hadiah tak sepertinya besar atau mahal, a small thing may give some nice suprise and most human mmg sukakan suprise macam ni. Tak perlu belikan alfa romeo, atau fiat aveo atau flat screen home-theater (hints hints:P) kalau come out with that person favourite dish, or tunggu untuk makan fav dish tu sampai org tu datang pun macam dah beri satu rasa terharu samada secara sedar atau separa sedar. Atau utk perempuan lagi senang, kasi apa pun as long as it is from special someone semua pun dia anggap sama --> special. Cara lain nak ubah dressing seseorg pun boleh ngan belikan dia fesyen/warna pakaian yg kite rasa cantik utk dia. So, nanti dia taulah yg kita ni suka cara cemana kat dia kan.. ahha (ok, pasal ubah dressing ni pendapat saya la.. bukan dr tips tu:P).

3. Menghubungi pasangan setiap hari. Tak perlulah bergayut sampai 4-5 jam. Cukup sekadar bertanya kabar di awal pagi dan sebelum tidur malam (around 5 minit). Kalau dah masa bercinta boleh je nak tanya kabar2 ni kan, so kalau dah kawin tu cuba2lah tanya juga. Macam maybe waktu lunch boleh tanya dah makan ke belum. Atau spouse pergi outstation tu, telefon2lah juga. Gitulah lebih kurang.

4. Luahkan perkataan tentang perasaan dr hati <--macam cakap saya sayang awak ke, i love you, watashiwa anatawa sukides. Terlalu tiap2 hari sgt pun ade org kate tak best, terlalu jarang sgt pun tak elok. At least pasangan tahu yg kita masih sayang kat dia kan. So terpulanglah utk kekerapan ckp tu. Kalau diselalukan pun rasanya tak salah (utk pasangan berkahwin la). utk yg tak kawin, maybe rasa senang nyer nak ckp..mesti die ni dah ckp kat org lain juga.

5. Oh, ni ade satu teringat. Pasal masa time gaduh, kalau sorang tu tgh marah kite jgn lawan. Diam sahaja walaupun dia salah, lepas dah cool down barulah kita ckp secara baik. Sbb org yg marah ni selalunya kurang waras, so kalau lawan akan menyemarakkan api tu. Yg ni applicable to both side. Suami jgnlah harap isteri dengar aje, and isteri jgnlah asyik nak marah je kan. (Isk, part ni mmg saya kena byk2 belajar la.. hehe:)) )

Oklah, tu jeler yg teringat time ni. CUkuplah utk kali ni. Kalau sesape rasa nak tambah pun boleh juga. I think org dah biasa dengar, and aida & aini punya posting lagi byk input. Apa2 pun nasihat utama utk para lelaki :Jgn biarkan perempuan tertanya2 tanpa penjelasan/jawapan yg pasti. Kaum perempuan adalah kaum yg sangat hebat dlm segi seni dan kreativiti dan imaginasi, sebab kaum perempuan bila lelaki diam dan biarkan diri dia tanpa penjelasan, do not be suprised if she can come out with 101 assumption on your silence. he he he:D

selamat meneruskan ibadat puasa:)

8th Ramadhan

Haaaa.. dah 8 ramadhan dah? isk.. time flies so fast.. Macam baru je puasa bermula, now after i counted back actually i am going to work minimum days of 10 only before bercuti raya..

I think i can't type much now after these two-days long 'conversation' on Siti's blog. It was all started on Education in Malaysia issue and drag into Political Ideology issue. But then, maybe siti and I were too idealistic or maybe i am not really aware on the political matters in Malaysia.. I think i shouldn't say much here.. You all can view my comments there and there.. so many, as it seems like i am blogging there.. :) and, you may give your opinion as well there.. Just to share our opinions.. macam siti kate, mana tau kalau ada yg jadi menteri nanti bolehlah consider apa sebenarnyer dlm minda kebanyakkan org ni..

Apa2 pun, i am feeling excited to go back hometown. hehe BALIK lagi? jgn marah..:p takdelah, actually few days back there was a broken pipe yg telah menyebabkan the whole house floaded with water. So balik ngan niat nak menolong la..tak tahuler akhirnyer jadi tolong kemas ke, tolong jaga rumah je ke atau tolong tgk je.. hehe And..sebelum terlupa, i just found out that my phone bill payment was not credited in which it turns out to .. temporarily disqualified me to make calls and send SMS.. huhuuhhu this is something that never happen to me since i work!! ha, kalau rindu2 tu takyahler SMS call ajeler..mmg aku bosan takde org tepon sekarang, asyik sms, emel, msg board, blogging, YM.. kekekekek:))

OKlah, need to settle my job.. Nanti lewat plak balik:) Jumpa lagi.. take care, selamat berbuka and bye all..

7th Fasting Day: Nasi Al-Ambra

It was because of Bubur Lambuk yesterday that I went to the Menara's mosque to pray Asr berjemaah. Hehe niat tak betul kan? Sbb tu in the end, tak sempat nak dpt pun bubur tu.. erks, cedey sket ler, sbb tetibe teringin nak makan bubur lambuk menara (erm.. that cannot be categorized as mengidam sbb kite belum qualified utk join that group. he he he)..takpeler bukan rezeki pun. maybe hari ni nak try my luck again kot?:D

But then, i met someone there. Guess who? jeng jeng jeng.. the person that successfully emotionally reminded me of the old times at MMU Cyberjaya dulu.. sbbnya? sama2 solat jemaah kat masjid tu, dok sebelah2 and had some chat dlm masjid.. Tiba2 teringat solat kat masjid al-Hidayah MMU tu, time2 bukak pose sesama, solat tarawikh sesama.. tetibe je bile tgk permaidani warna biru masjid menara terbayang permaidani warna hijau belang kuning masjid mmu.. rasa sayu sgt tetibe (tetibe sensitip gile plak).. penah tak korang teringat tentang sesuatu perkara tu, deep inside your heart sampai tibe2 korang rasa nak nangis? ha tu lah yg berlaku semalam... it is just *that's it!* . That person gelak jer tgk aku... muahahahha ntah ape2 ler ngan budak sorang ni kan akak kan..hehe

Last saturday i had a majlis berbuka puasa plus majlis tazkirah bulan ramadhan, and we agreed to do potluck. I prepared Nasi Al-Ambra and brought it all along the way from Malacca to KL (since i took leave for few days and went back hometown kan.. hehe). Some of the fellow friends did asked me for the recipe. I took this recipe from forwarded emails, but have modified sket2 mengikut citarasa org timur. :)) Here it goes the recipe:

Preparation Time: 1 hour (Rendam beras, hiris itu ini, defrost daging)
Cooking Time : 30 minutes (u can cook & prepare Bahan A, Bahan B and Bahan C simultaneously)
Total Time Taken: 1 1/2 hours.

Bahan-Bahan
Untuk 6-10 hidangan

Bahan A:
1 kg beras basmati (dicuci & direndam selama 30 minit)
1 batang kayu manis
3 biji pelaga
3 kuntum bunga cengkih
3 helai daun pandan (dicuci & dipintal)
3 sdm minyak kacang (minyak masak biasa pun boleh)
1/2 cawan susu rendah lemak
5 ulas bawang putih (dikisar)
4 sm halia (dikisar)
1.5 liter air
1 sdt garam (kalau saya, lebihkan garam dlm 2-3 sudu teh atau secukup rasa)

Bahan B:
500 g lobak merah (dicuci bersih & dipotong dadu) -boleh kurangkan lobak. Dlm 2-3 batang lobak sederhana besar, 500g lobak boleh dpt dlm 5 batang lobak.
400 g kacang buncis (dihiris halus) -boleh kurangkan dlm 300g jer
500 g daging lembu tanpa lemak (dikisar) -gune daging kisar Ramly
3 biji putih telur
1/2 sdt garam -sama macam kat atas, boleh lebihkan sedikit dlm 1 sudu
1 sdt serbuk lada hitam -kalau nak pedas sket, tambah lebih sket. Maybe dlm 3 sudu.

Cara Cara
Bahan A:
· Tumis bawang putih, halia kisar bersama kayu manis, bunga cengkih dan pelaga sehingga wangi. (boleh gune kuali dulu, then baru masukkan dlm rice cooker. If gune rice cooker, kurangkan sukatan beras.)
· Masukkan daun pandan dan susu rendah lemak.
· Apabila sudah mendidih masukkan beras dan masak sehingga tanak. (Dlm masa 15 minit je gitu kalau gune api dapur, pastu kena jaga api. Rice cooker tak try lagi sbb tak muat dgn nasi begitu:p)
(Optional utk lebih sedap tambahkan satu tin cendawan butang yg telah dihiris ke dalam nasi apabila telah masak)

Bahan B:
· Masak daging di atas kuali hingga separuh kering. (tak perlu taruk minyak)
· Masukkan lobak merah, kemudian masukkan kacang buncis, garam, lada hitam dan putih telur. Kacau sehingga rata.
· Campuran daging ini di masukkan ke dalam nasi yang sudah tanak dan dikacau rata.

Bahan-bahan untuk salad:
7 batang lada merah (dikisar halus) (kalau blend jgn bubuh air byk, nanti kuah cair)
1/4 sdt garam (lebih sikit pun ok.. maybe 1/2 sudu)
1/2 sdm gula timbang (brown sugar) (i put 1 tablespoon)
2 biji bawang besar (dihiris halus) (1 biji pun dah banyak. Hiris halus2. Tapi kalau suka bawang, takpe letak lebih)
2 sdm daun ketumbar (dihiris)
1 biji jus limau kasturi (i put 2 biji instead)

Cara-cara: Satukan semua bahan-bahan dan gaul rata.

And this dishes is also great with ayam masak pedas, sup kosong & some daun salad, timun jepun.

The result? I can say hmmm... quite yummy jugalah esp. waktu panas2 dan dihidangkan ngan ayam masak pedas (sambal goreng ayam). Tak caya? tanyalah org2 yg dah penah makan.. ha sape penah makan cepat ckp:D.

Since this is Nasi Arab recipe (i guess, based on its name) kalau ikut resipi asal mmg agak tawar, so yg italic words tu semua comment saya lepas memasak 2 kali-satu resipi asal, satu resipi ubahsuai. :)

Ha, ape tu.. dah meleleh air liur..kekeke sabar sabar.. Kurang 6 jam je lagi nak bukak pose.. Apa2 pun selamat mencuba ek:P

wasalam.

6th Ramadhan 1425H

Hai.. macam menghitung hari plak aku ni yer.. Mengalahkan org yg kena 'bersabar' menunggu hari kan diknon kan, (Well, u know who you are:p). Whateva it is, today i feel soooo sleepy.. Ngantuknyer, tak tahuler apesal. Abisler, produktiviti menurun.. hehehe

Apa2 pun, aku pening jugak ni dgn diri sendiri.. Apesallah aku ni tkaleh nak speed-up keje2 aku. Rasa cam quite slow je buat keje ni.. eish, bak kate Philip Humbert perfectionist cannot work together wih excellency.. Maybe i was too into perfectionist, and i think i have to learn on how to delegate works to other people.

Al-Hamdulillah, thank God that I have a new assistant now that can work practically quite fast and teliti (a lady, of course.. and still young in which it is easier to teach and more obedient..ehhe). Farah was rite, this 'seat' (post) is really facing too many adhoc works. And it is much frigthening as most of these adhoc works are treated IMPORTANT and URGENT and CRITICAL and need to be sent to higher authority ASAP.

Aih, sorry friends. I cannot think about what to write today- from the previous discussion i had on fiqh/hukum-hakam, on the How to Attract Your Partner topic(tak saba part ni ek:p) , on the economic issue (oil price) i raised up before.. (There is Quran reciting now in Menara Telekom, sounds like what i heard in Saudi Arabia last time.. Beautiful voice by the reciter..) I will see if i have some time to slot in my ideas today ok.

So.. have a nice day today, and take care all.. Muahas!

4th Fasting Day

Assalamualaikum wbt and hi all..

So, how's your day? Have you been missing me? heheh ;) Al-Hamdulillah, until today i am still alive. This Ramadhan seems to emerge the way i think in a new way.. Since I always (at most time) think differently from other people, i thought that i might be weird or rare or odd already.. But then i found out that actually more people out there are more intelectual than i am and they already think oddly.. ehhehe

By the way, some of you might wonder what 'gift' i received for my birthday this year. That 'gift' filled me like the same feeling i had when i just came back from umrah-I felt my life has been completed. And once again, i am feeling it. So, what is it that i really received this year?

I received knowledge

Al-Hamdulillah, for HIM let me walked thru this path and found what i searched for long time. :) Hmm, hari ni aku rasa cam jadi 'ustazah' la plak.. Ustazah celup je since i still have to refer to few people yg lebih arif. ehhe Since i received a number of questions pasal hukum-hakam.. i think i would like to share some of them with all of you. Esok2 kite postkan lagi ttg perkara2 yg dibincangkan hari ni. ok.

So, here you are with one email posting that create some 'havoc' among muslim women:

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Subject: Untuk panduan

Assalamualaikum... Sempena Ramadhan yang bakal menjelang tiba tidak lama lagi ni eloklahsaya terangkan mengenai sesuatu yang jarang sekali diketahui oleh orang Islam seperti kita. Untuk pengetahuan semua, walaupun kaum hawa akan kedatangan haid pada setiap bulan (bg yg normal) dan tidak boleh berpuasa di bulan Ramadhan apabila tiba masa tersebut tetapi mereka adalah diwajibkan imsak sepanjang hari sehingga tibanya waktu berbuka puasa.

Wajib imsak bermaksud, wanita tersebut tidak dibenarkan sama sekaliuntuk menjamah makanan dan hendaklah menjaga diri seperti orang yangberpuasa. Ramai yang tidak tahu mengenai masalah ini kerana berpendapatapabila mereka tidak boleh berpuasa kerana didatangi haid mereka bolehmakan dan minum seperti biasa.

Sebenarnya pendapat ini adalah salah kerana walaupun didatangi haid, wanita adalah tidak dibenarkan sama sekali untuk makan dan minum seperti biasa. Perkara ini pernah dibangkitkan dua tahun yang lalu kerana umatIslam tidak peka dengan masalah ini.

Antara yang pernah membangkitkan masalah ini ialah Dr Mashitah dalam tulisan beliau di sebuah akhbar.Beliau menyatakan bahawa wanita yang tidak boleh berpuasa adalah wajib imsak seperti yang diterangkan diatas. Kalau anda merasa ragu-ragu dengan kenyataan ini cubalah bertanyakan kepada yang ahli seperti beliau untukbertanyakan pendapat. Saya cuma ingin berkongsi secebis ilmu yang saya pelajari di kelas agama, itu saja. Semoga panduan ini berguna untuk semua. Wallahhua'lam..

So, here goes the pendapat:

Pendapat 1
AMZ wrote:

salam,
perkara ni pernah dibangkitkan dalam satu kuliah yg dihadiri lama dahulu. kalau nak diikutkan, tidak makan dan minum ketika period adalah sunat sebagai menghormati bulan ramadhan...TETAPI tidak boleh digambarkan seolah2 sedang berpuasa - hukumnya haram sebab orang yg period haram berpuasa.

rational - apa yang kita buat semua berasaskan niat.berpuasa ramadhan diwajibkan berniat (sebab tuh kita diharuskan ikut maliki yang berniat sebulan takut2 terlupa satu hari nak niat puasa ramadhan - syafie berniat tiap2 malam). so, kalau niat kita tak makan tuh sebab kena berpuasa sama macam org lain tak boleh la.. niatkan je sebagai menghormati ramadhan..

tapi rasanya, kalau dah diberi kemudahan untuk takberpuasa tuh, nikmati ajela sebaiknya...orang lain susah payah tak nak puasa,korang plak tanak makan +minum..sekurang2nya takdela lauk untuk berbuka terlebih garam.

Pendapat ke-2:
Pendapat 2 (dari wanita)
salam utk semua juga.
Maybe saya tak layak untuk bercakap ttg perkara ni kat sini. Insya-Allah sekadar berkongsi sedikit ilmu yg ada hasil drpd menghadiri satu majlis ilmu sabtu yg lepas ttg ibadah puasa.

Isu ni pun ada dibangkitkan dlm majlis ilmu tersebut. Terdapat 3 golongan yg dibenarkan untuk tidak berpuasa; dan salah satunya adalah perempuan yg didatangi haid atau nifas. Sbbnya, dlm keadaan ini badan perempuan jadi lemah dan mengalami sakit2 lain.. So, kalau berpuasa ada kemungkinan akan mendatangkan kemudaratan kepada diri. Antara lain ialah kisah para sahabat yg berpuasa dan bermusafir. Dlm perjalanan, mereka berhenti berehat. Sebahagian yg lain meneruskan puasa, dan sebahagian yg lain berbuka puasa tetapi menyediakan makanan berbuka utk rakan2 mereka yg lain.. Kirenyer kalau dlm musafir, tidak berpuasa bererti makan dan minum apa beza tidak berpuasa utk perempuan yg dtg haid kan?

Kalau difikirkan secara logik pun, sekiranya wajib imsak sekalipun dtg haid dan tidak boleh makan dan minum sehingga terbenam matahari bererti kita sedang berpuasa (definisi puasa: menahan diri dari makan, minum, melakukan perkara2 yg mendatangkan nikmat dan bersama dengan isteri/suami dr terbitnya fajar sidiq hingga terbenam matahari). And if dr awal lagi berpuasa itu WAJIB untuk perempuan yg dtg haid, sudah tentu Allah dan Rasulullah SAW dah syariatkan kaum wanita berpuasa dlm apa jua keadaan sekalipun. Jadi mmg dah sah2 tak boleh berpuasa, kan.

cumanya, disunatkan utk tidak makan atau minum di hadapan org yg berpuasa / makan secara sorok2 sbb dikhuatiri mengganggu org yg berpuasa. Bak kata Munir, Allah dah kasi pelepasan, kite makan je lah kan.. Rugilah pulak kalau tak ambil peluang keemasan tu.ehhe;)

My apologize ttg kekurangan isi dalam apa yg akan saya perkatakan sbb hari ni kebetulan tak bawa nota2 dr kelas tersebut because perkara ni mmg dibincangkan secara mendalam dan termasuk ada petikan dr al-Quran, dan hadith sekali. Insya-Allah ada kesempatan saya akan emailkan nota tersebut kepada kawan2 (it's in hardcopy, so i have to type it first).

Apa2 pun, jika ada sebarang pendapat atau pembetulan, silalah betul2kan saya yg masih lagi sedikit ilmunya. wallahu 'alam.
Wasalam.
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Teringat pesan Rasulullah supaya :Permudahkan, jangan disusah2kan sesuatu perkara. Tadi seorg sahabat pun ada kata, Islam itu mudah-jangan disusah2kan. :) Apa2 pun, atas kekurangan ilmu saya kurang pasti kenapa diwajibkan imsak dan alasan Dr Masyitah menulisnya (jika benar beliau yg tulis la). Kalau ada sesape yg ada pendapat lain bolehlah bagi komen yer.

Opss.. ari ni keje sampai kul 5.00 jer.. hehehe oklah, selamat berbuka puasa semua. Insya-ALlah jumpa lagi. Have a nice day all.. ;)

Ada sesape nak komen ape2 tak?

Thank You

Al-Hamdulillah! That is all I can now. At least I know that I am still alive after 24 years of living on this planet. Thanx a lot to all the wishes, presents and doa from all my beloved friends. Never thought that so many people will remember my birthday (or actually is it because being stated on the YM status message and the captured in this blog?:p) ahahah Just a simple thought, tambah satu lagi usia yg panjang bermaksud semakin dekat mendekati kematian juga kan.. I am becoming older, but yet sometimes act like immature girl. :)

I have not so much to tell ya today. I am going to have my 2-days leave on this Thursday and Friday (in which it means sum up to 4 days break) . So in case that I won’t be able to update my blog tomorrow, this is a wish for all of you:

Selamat Menyambut Ramadhan

By the way, few days back I found out Aini had some interesting posting on How to Approach Woman. It was posted earlier by someone else, and now I am posting her things. Heheh but, can’t help it. It sounds interesting. I know I know, doesn’t seems to be faired with guys. Why then there is no topic on how to approach a man. :p I guess most women are shy to start first, and men are hard to describe what they want too. I got some tips from a good friend on how to maintain a relationship, or in other words How to tackle a man (woman pun boleh apply tau:P). But I guess most of my reader friends here knew better methods already on this topic. By the way, one thing not to forget is that women have lots of thinking in their minds. Whether it is your language, email, voice, words, body language..it can indicates something to the women . if you do not explain it at the proper period of time, women will make tons of assumption with their great imagination.. so, pls do not leave a woman in doubt if you do not want them to assume anything.. ;)

So, have a nice week. I might not be able to frequently update this thing during Ramadhan. Sampai jumpa lagi. Take care all. Wasalam.