It has been quite sometimes i left this blog, but looks like i have few pengunjung setia until the site tag i put here few days back reached around 20-30 times pages viewed a day.. hehe thanx thanx. i always thought that actually nobody was around reading my blog. So, now it seems that my assumption was wrong..
Oh, by the way.. I guess few of other people also seems to calculating the 'days'. Kalau takleh baca kat blog saya ni pun nampaknyer Kak Qin, aida punya pun boleh jenguk juga;) har har har.
I know that i have several promises to be cash. I was trying hard to remember the point on "How to maintain a relationship@How to attract men". I tried several weeks, only that these vivid points became clear this morning. Once a friend of mine told me that if someone say that the difficult part of a relationship is to start it, he said yes it is thru because it is the time where you have to struggle and show your effort that that someone is really meant something to you. But, it is harder in a relationship because you need to keep the effort in order to maintain the relationship. He was once failed, but now seems to live happily ever after with his wife and child.
If you asked me about this question few years back, maybe it won't be as difficult as today. I used to think more like a man rather a woman last time, in which i have a boast of energy. Used to call the type of 'stereotype image of woman' as typical women. Now, i think that i am becoming that typical type of women. No wonder all the test i took last time change a lot to other descriptions. hehe isk, Aini kite dah perah otak abis2 dah ni utk ingat ni. So, here you are with the tips. Thanx to the brother who used to nagging me here and there, the credit goes to him. Sorrylah yer, adik sorang ni masih tak pandai nak apply tips tu..hahah. BTW, I did try few times some of the tips, and it went quite well. :)
Tips to maintain a relationship
1. Selalu menggunakan kata nama diri, kurangkan penggunaan kata ganti diri. Penggunaan kata nama diri akan menyebabkan orang yang mendengarnya terasa dekat/rapat dengan kita. Contohnya, jika memberikan pendapat peribadi (nada suara biasa sahaja):
Saya rasa sepatutnya perkara macam ini boleh dielakkan drpd berlaku. <--ayat agak formal, kurang mesra, bersifat mendapatkan point sahaja, environment akan jadi macam kaku sedikit. So, org di sekeliling akan merasakan tekanan secara tidak langsung yang wujud.
Ika rasa sepatutnyer perkara macam ini boleh dielakkan drpd berlaku <--ayat ada unsur tidak formal, bernada mententeramkan dan create environment yg lebih 'release' dan mesra. Orang akan rasa lebih mudah utk berkomunikasi dengan kita dan rasa lebih free to talk.
2. Memberi hadiah kepada pasangan tanpa perlu menunggu hari tertentu. I think this thing has also been raised by Aida in her previous posting. Hadiah tak sepertinya besar atau mahal, a small thing may give some nice suprise and most human mmg sukakan suprise macam ni. Tak perlu belikan alfa romeo, atau fiat aveo atau flat screen home-theater (hints hints:P) kalau come out with that person favourite dish, or tunggu untuk makan fav dish tu sampai org tu datang pun macam dah beri satu rasa terharu samada secara sedar atau separa sedar. Atau utk perempuan lagi senang, kasi apa pun as long as it is from special someone semua pun dia anggap sama --> special. Cara lain nak ubah dressing seseorg pun boleh ngan belikan dia fesyen/warna pakaian yg kite rasa cantik utk dia. So, nanti dia taulah yg kita ni suka cara cemana kat dia kan.. ahha (ok, pasal ubah dressing ni pendapat saya la.. bukan dr tips tu:P).
3. Menghubungi pasangan setiap hari. Tak perlulah bergayut sampai 4-5 jam. Cukup sekadar bertanya kabar di awal pagi dan sebelum tidur malam (around 5 minit). Kalau dah masa bercinta boleh je nak tanya kabar2 ni kan, so kalau dah kawin tu cuba2lah tanya juga. Macam maybe waktu lunch boleh tanya dah makan ke belum. Atau spouse pergi outstation tu, telefon2lah juga. Gitulah lebih kurang.
4. Luahkan perkataan tentang perasaan dr hati <--macam cakap saya sayang awak ke, i love you, watashiwa anatawa sukides. Terlalu tiap2 hari sgt pun ade org kate tak best, terlalu jarang sgt pun tak elok. At least pasangan tahu yg kita masih sayang kat dia kan. So terpulanglah utk kekerapan ckp tu. Kalau diselalukan pun rasanya tak salah (utk pasangan berkahwin la). utk yg tak kawin, maybe rasa senang nyer nak ckp..mesti die ni dah ckp kat org lain juga.
5. Oh, ni ade satu teringat. Pasal masa time gaduh, kalau sorang tu tgh marah kite jgn lawan. Diam sahaja walaupun dia salah, lepas dah cool down barulah kita ckp secara baik. Sbb org yg marah ni selalunya kurang waras, so kalau lawan akan menyemarakkan api tu. Yg ni applicable to both side. Suami jgnlah harap isteri dengar aje, and isteri jgnlah asyik nak marah je kan. (Isk, part ni mmg saya kena byk2 belajar la.. hehe:)) )
Oklah, tu jeler yg teringat time ni. CUkuplah utk kali ni. Kalau sesape rasa nak tambah pun boleh juga. I think org dah biasa dengar, and aida & aini punya posting lagi byk input. Apa2 pun nasihat utama utk para lelaki :Jgn biarkan perempuan tertanya2 tanpa penjelasan/jawapan yg pasti. Kaum perempuan adalah kaum yg sangat hebat dlm segi seni dan kreativiti dan imaginasi, sebab kaum perempuan bila lelaki diam dan biarkan diri dia tanpa penjelasan, do not be suprised if she can come out with 101 assumption on your silence. he he he:D
selamat meneruskan ibadat puasa:)
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